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Dearly Beloved,

It is August 1st, 2016, 3 years after Minnesota and Rhode Island legalized same-sex marriage. Happy 3 year legal anniversary to my wife, Donna! We get free dessert every time we go out to eat because it’s either the anniversary of our marriage, our legal marriage, our ceremony, our reception, our first date, or the first day we met. We have a lot to celebrate. And the memories of our wedding come back every year. So make your wedding memorable. Do something that will stand out in your memory. An amazing dance number, an odd but suitable venue, a tacky but tasteful addition of some sort to your attire. Whatever it is, it should be something that means something to you and your bride.

Random Wedding thought of the week:

My cousin just got married and they loved swing dancing. They wrote a wish and a prayer on the bottom of their dance shoes for each other. How bout, “I pray I say the correct name.”

Quote from my memoir, “Diary of a Gay, Pregnant Bride”:

Donna’s niece, Quynh, the flower girl, wore a glittery lilac-colored dress. The same color fabric Asian take-out box purse held pink and purple rose pedals which she dropped as she walked down the steps. Todd held a light blue fabric-covered take-out box which housed the rings.

“May I have the rings?”

Todd walked up to the officiant and pulled out the fortune cookie-like ring holder from inside the take-out box. His second-hand black pants, which were slightly too big, rested on his black shoes. His blue shirt beneath his black suit coat matched the fancy take-out box, as my meticulous planning made sure themes and colors matched.

Questions to Consider:

If you got married before it was legal and you get married again, which anniversary will you celebrate? What will you make memorable?…a tradition?…an object, gift, accessory?…a moment walking alone with your new bride?…a special speech or song?

Did you know?

80% of weddings are performed in churches or synagogues. I bet 80% of same-sex marriages currently are not performed in churches or synagogues. Maybe one day.

Good Advice:

Can’t do karaoke? Afraid of speaking in front of everyone at your ceremony? Find another way to impress that bride of yours with something extra special she will remember year after year on your anniversaries. Maybe it’s a piece of jewelry you give her at a very unexpected time on your wedding day. Maybe it’s something strange you’ve never done before, like putting sleeping bags in a random place in the house for a little cozy romantic cuddle after the wedding. Maybe it’s a love note you put in her shoe. Or write it on the bottom of her heels. Or sign your names in a heart under a table. And who doesn’t think a ring made out of found objects and pipe cleaners isn’t cute?

Pride, Pearls, and Pipe cleaners,


Kelly Frankenberg is an illustrator, painter, writer and teacher. She has a MFA in Creative Writing from the University of New Orleans and a BFA in Illustration from the Minneapolis College of Art & Design. She has worked for Fox National News, seen her creations on Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, in newspapers, magazines, books, film, TV, and on windows, walls, and mailboxes. She loves to travel, learn languages, sing (you can get started too following this guide) and write music, and play guitar and piano. She is currently working on her children’s book series about her son, “Boo Bear.” Visit the website for the series at

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Read more! Kelly was not only a pregnant bride planning her lesbian wedding in the midst of gay marriage becoming legal but she was dealing with the passing of her mother all at the same time. Talk about stress! Purchase a copy of her book on Amazon today.

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