Obviously the rules of conduct are growing and developing as same sex couples feel more comfortable with newly found rights to marry, or at the very least “get engaged”. So as we accept our relationship status more openly, interesting questions start developing.
Two people of the same sex decide to live the rest of their lives together and choose to wear symbols of their love for each other, what should those symbols be? Rings? Bracelets? Diamonds? Gold or platinum? Who proposes to whom, and does the other reciprocate?
Traditionally in a straight couple, the protocol is usually: man gets woman engagement ring, then each gets a wedding band at marriage ceremony. With same sex couples, we open a door to new ground. First there is the question of the engagement. Since a couple consists of two people of the same sex, several options arise: The couple decides together to get engaged and shop for rings OR One partner chooses to spring the question on the other and propose.
I have encountered both scenarios, though when it comes to choosing rings, a variety of options present themselves. Partners can choose rings together and have them match, or partners can decide to wear something suitable for each of them without them matching.
I think in any relationship, a couple wants to wear a symbol of their loyalty and faith to each other, but just because they are entering into a “committed” relationship, doesn’t mean each partner gives up his or her individuality. My opinion is that it is perfectly ok for each to wear a ring they love and fits their personality and who they are.
My suggestion is: discuss it together. Consider whether you want to wear similar or different rings. I am always a believer in discussing up front a budget. Consider each other’s taste and wants and see that your partner gets what they want and will love.
A final consideration is whether you choose to get engagement rings or directly wear wedding bands. Though tradition has shown us that engagement rings with matching wedding bands can be stunning, you should decide what works best for you two. Bands of course can match each other, but don’t need to. And if you choose engagement rings with matching bands, it is ok for the sets to be unique to each of your personalities. All is good!
Whatever you decide – it is your choice, it is your life, and it is your relationship.
Be happy with your decision and live happily ever after.
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